UPBUILDING THE SELF

Designing Relationships Intentionally

Relationships often operate on unspoken assumptions and implicit agreements. And this is one of the reasons our relationships are so dysfunctional. In this episode, Mary, Michael, and Vipin introduce the skill of “Creating Conscious Relationship” to help you turn the implicit into the explicit, and in the process, to increase the trust in your relationships. They share the key components of this skill, their personal experiences of using it, and a step-by-step process to implement it for maximum impact.

Podcast Hosts: Michael, Mary, and Vipin

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Highlights

  • [1:30] Introducing the skill of Creating Conscious Relationships (CCR)

  • [3:10] Levels of Consciousness

  • [4:20] Conscious relationships in a coaching context

  • [6:00] Specific agreements in a coaching context

  • [9:20] The impact of CCR at the beginning of a relationship

  • [12:20] Mary’s personal experience with a colleague

  • [14:30] How we can use CCR in other relationships

  • [16:20] CCR in romantic relationships

  • [20:50] Mary’s example with her partner

  • [22:50] Applying CCR to evolving relationships

  • [27:20] If we were wildly successful, what would we have?

  • [30:40] Step-by-step instructions to use the skill

Quotes

  • “A conscious relationship is a relationship that's built on explicitly making agreements and talking about the relationship rather than operating based on assumptions.” - Mary

  • ”It comes back to what's really important to the other person, and how do I support that.” - Vipin

  • “Relationships go through different phases, and every time there is a new phase or stage of that relationship, it's very helpful to be explicit about what we want to retain and what risks we want to prepare for.” - Vipin

  • “We all have had experiences...where we know what doesn't work. And what if we were able to talk about those things before we get into this situation? And that's really what Creating Conscious Relationship is all about.” - Mary

  • “I think in a lot of relationships, we don't really talk about how we want to be in the relationship, what we're willing to give, and what we need to receive in order to bring out our best. Creating Conscious Relationship helps us do that. “ - Mary

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